You probably know someone who is emotionally maddening to deal with.
Are you familiar with Borderline Personality Disorder? Some estimate the number of people afflicted with BPD to be as high as 1 in 25 people. Others have it at 1 in 100.
Either way, understanding this illness is the most important aspect of dealing with these individuals.
As one therapist here explains, this group is the ultimate group of outsiders, BPD being the "I Don't Fit In" disorder.
They are extremely emotionally dependent on others, but always cycling through a desperate pattern of idealizing then rejecting those around them. Once these relationships are established, separations or perceived abandonment is catastrophic.
Different aspects of this common disorder may be at play in your relationship with a Borderline in your life, but this extreme fear of abandonment is likely to be recurring theme in the painful drama.
You may save yourself plenty of heartache by learning more about what is at play, and understanding that because of deep childhood trauma, they don't have the filters, boundaries and self love necessary to respond in healthy ways to those around them.
--Bibi Farber
This video was produced by New York Presbyterian Hospital